It sounds harsh, but it’s true. I’ve been here as well and I learned this lesson the hard way. Yes we can complain about how men “suck” and how women “aren’t what they used to be,” but the problem isn’t them…it’s your ability to practice self love.
You have a self love problem.
I’m not talking about the cozy cuddly self-love stuff you like doing. I’m speaking about choosing to practice self love when you have to make tough decisions.
I’m talking about you listening to your intuition when it warns you about a relationship no longer serving you…Or listening to your intuition when it tells you that a certain person isn’t worth getting to know.
I’m talking about you finally learning to respect your intuitive superpower and love yourself enough to put yourself first even if it means being lonely for a while. Learn to love, honor, and respect your desires even when it means hurting someone’s feelings.
You are more powerful than you realize.
Do not let fear stop you from being able to connect with the right person for you. And when you think that you can no longer trust people, know that the person you truly mistrust is yourself. If you learned to honor your intuition and respect your inner knowing, you would have no reason to fear dating. You have an inner compass that will always work in your favor. It is there to serve you. All you need to do is practice tuning into it.
Once you become in tuned with yourself, it will be easy for you to decide when someone isn’t right for you. Unfortunately, this world will always be filled with a combination of people with good intentions, bad intentions, and everything in between. Your job is to align yourself with the people who are right for you and protect yourself from the people who are not. Don’t let a pretty face, sweet words, and a charming smile sway you into making the wrong relationship decision.
If you don’t know how to start honoring yourself and listening to your intuition, start with these 3 things:
- Develop a daily meditation practice- Meditation will help you silence all of your mind chatter so that you can better hear your inner voice and finally connect to your inner guidance system.
- Learn to Differentiate between fear and your intuition– Download my cheatsheet here to help you learn to difference between your fear voice and your intuition voice. But simply put, your intuition is usually the calmer voice between the two.
- Learn To Set Healthy Boundaries– You should make a list of all of the qualities you want in a mate and all of the qualities that you absolutely do not want and become very familiar with it. Whenever you see a red flag in someone, that should be your cue to re-evaluate the relationship. Also having some personal boundaries makes it harder for someone to come into your life and wreak havoc. For example, you could have a personal boundary of not borrowing money to your mate and when the new person you’re dating asks for money, let them know that you have a personal rule against that.
Those poor dating decisions that you’ve made in the past were not made in vain because those decisions are now lessons that you’ve learned. Take those lessons and master them.